There is no right way to load the dishwasher.
There’s no right way to fold laundry.
Believe it or not, there’s no right way to clean the house.
There’s only YOUR way, the preferred way.
Yet you treat it like life or death, and when someone else steps in to do it, you have a visceral response and immediately take over.
Or you politely watch your teenager do it… half-ass of course, because they are a teenager, all the while your nerves sizzling inside, and quickly do it over when they’re not looking…or maybe right before their eyes!
You all know what I’m talking about. We are all guilty of doing it. Because you’ve told yourself it’s faster to do it yourself, and you’re the only one who can do it right.
Guess what this leads to? Resentment, overwhelm, burnout, and blow-ups, as well as weight gain, and health conditions.
First, when you are hyper-controlling and taking over everything, there’s no time left in the day for yourself. You are literally stacked back-to-back from the second you get up to the minute you go to bed. And none of it is for you or your health.
Second, the list never ends, dishes are always there, laundry a constant, house cleaning, kids to school with Instagram-perfect organic allergy-free lunches (meanwhile you eat lie sh*t), doctor’s appointments, bath time, reading time, more f*cking dishes – seriously, what’s with all the dishes! And the dog hair! So. Much. Hair! It never ends and you become overwhelmed. Do you know what you DON’T want to do when you are overwhelmed? MORE things to do like prep your food, search for recipes, follow your nutrition plan, workout, take your supplements, literally ANYTHING! What you DO want is a Xanax, a glass of wine, and a bag of Oreos.
Third, you are living in a state of stress. Stress activates the nervous system, releases cortisol, creates inflammation, and keeps sugar (wine & Oreos) in the bloodstream which if not used, is stored as fat – and no, vacuuming does not count as a form of exercise to burn off the sugar.
So now you’re storing fat, inflammation is making you puffy, stress is assaulting your adrenal glands (which make 50% of your sex hormones) so your hormones are imbalanced, and you have PMS.
Should I go on? Stress, resentment, overwhelm, frustration, mental exhaustion, eating poorly, not exercising, and self-medicating, all affect the HPA axis (hypothalamus, pituitary, adrenal). Sleep is impacted – cue 3:00 am nightly wake-ups, thyroid slows, libido dies ….you get the picture. You might even be living it right now.
And most importantly, regardless of your shape, weight, or size, you are not happy.
Your desire to hyper-control and take over everything is negatively impacting your health and size.
No meal plan can fix this.
No amount of intermittent fasting will change this.
No amount of calorie counting or macro tracking will work long-term.
You must start at a SYSTEMS level.
And this is not easy my friends. This takes a deep desire to want to change more than just your weight. This will require communication. It will feel uncomfortable as you break generational modeling. It will require you to feel out of control for a period. It may require you to renegotiate the terms of your relationship. It will take patience as your family adjusts. It will take more time than you’d like but it is worth it in the end. Because you will have changed at the inception point. When you do this, your health improves.
When your health improves, your shape and size change naturally.
This is the work I do with my clients.
Yes, I do labs, but guess what, your hormones won’t improve if you don’t change your systems. Your adrenals won’t regulate if you continue to stress them out. Your bloat, belly, and poor digestion won’t go away if you continue to feed yourself poorly.
So yes, I go science geek on you AND I coach you to change your habits and beliefs to support the science.
So, my friend, what are you going to do?
Continue to burn yourself out with hyper-control and overdoing, or break the cycle and join The SHED to change it?
Your life, your choice, I just want you to love your choice.
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